How will I know counseling is working?
Here are some signs that therapy is making a difference in your life. These are just some common markers, but not everyone will experience all of them since everyone's therapy process is different.
- You start to get more understanding about your current problems
- You start to get more understanding about yourself when you were younger and about your family
- You start to notice your problems MORE (Oops, I know, I know, but this IS a good sign)
- Your problems seem to get worse (It's only because you're noticing them more!)
- You start seeing your problems differently than how you've seen them before
- You start to apply some of what you've learned in therapy to your life
- You start to have more compassion on yourself
- You start to have more compassion on other people
- You start noticing that you react differently to your problems
- You go through a grieving process (seeing things in a different light can be difficult at first)
- You start to experience more personal peace
- You're less angry, anxious, or depressed
- You have more clarity
- You may experience less body symptoms (headaches, stomach aches, tension aches)
Questions and Fears People Have About Counseling
- What is counseling like? Am I going to lie down on your couch and cry while you analyze me and take notes?
- Do I have to talk about my childhood? It was so long ago and doesn't have anything to do with today.
- I don't think you'll understand me or what I've gone through.
- I'm afraid of being judged.
- What if my friends and family don't understand why I'm going to counseling?
- What if I'm too embarrassed to tell you about my problems?
- What if I don't know what to talk about?
- Do I have to know what want to work on in order to get counseling?
- How long will counseling take?
- How will I know counseling is "working"?
- What's the difference between therapy and counseling?
- Do you work with men individually too?